Five years ago, I had shared this and tagged my ex-husband in the post. I reposted it with the comment “This didn’t age well 😳😆😆”. Of course, when I viewed it later, the original tag wasn’t a part of the post, so the new comment lacked context. Technology really likes to screw with me.
However, because of this memory, I realized that I’m finally at a place where I can joke about this stuff and not feel any pain about the divorce – what a VICTORIOUS FEELING! It has been a long journey to get to the place where I am very matter of fact about the divorce and his remarriage. Mind you he is (rightfully) the villain in the telling of my story but now I find I take a much more humorous approach when talking to new people – like my neighbors – about it.
And it is such a relief to not feel that sharp pain in the heart. I’ve also stopped blaming myself and I can look back on the whole situation with a much less critical eye on me. I was in a bad place three years ago (due in part to his actions) and the reality is that my ex chose to abandon me for someone else during one of the darkest times in my life. And that’s on him.
I’m in a much better place (as confirmed by my laissez faire attitude when asked about it) and the new house is helping to create new memories that don’t include him.
It’s funny, my friend asked if there was anything good about him since all she has heard about was the bad. And I know there are some good qualities but unfortunately his actions over the past three years have seemed to erase them from my mind. It makes me a little sad to realize that, but only a little.
I will be honest about one thing though. While I may be past the pain, that doesn’t mean that I won’t feel the urge to punch him in the face if I see him again, I’m only human after all 🤪.
So, if you know someone who is struggling right now with something similar, please share this story to show them that there is an end to the pain if you work through it. And if you need help working through it, find a therapist that you like. This is very important – don’t stay with a therapist that doesn’t work for you.
Eventually you will find the humor in it all and when you do, celebrate the freedom that comes from it! 🍾🍾🍾
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