I Love a Mama’s Boy Not a Recap of Watching with Mom

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I Love a Mama’s Boy Not a Recap of Watching with Mom 

Sorry My Lovelies, I meant to have this out yesterday, but I tried to watch the episode for a second time, as I do with each one, and well… Just read on to find out why I didn’t make it through 😁.

This will be the truest not a recap recap* of an episode because this one was kind of pointless. It was an attempt to capitalize on the success of similar shows like People’s Couch or 90 Day Finance’s Pillow Talk, but it lacked the finesse of those shows. 

The beginning stated that they had filmed the cast each week as they watched the episodes. Problem number 1 – they tried to do an entire season in one hour, of which they only got as far as Shekeb’s failed promise ring/not a proposal episode. Which led to problem number 2 – they wore the same clothes for every episode of the season that they allegedly watched each week. I mean at least fake it better than that 🙄. Problem number 3 – if you recall Matt and Kim broke up at the end of the season and all indications are that they are not back together, so how is she watching each week with Matt and his mom Kim? Although she did disappear in the latter half of this episode. Maybe they filmed some of it before she left for Austin? And yes, it’s Austin, not Houston as I may have stated in the past – that’s why they are not recaps, I’m bad at details 😆😆😆. But then were they still filming while it was airing? Same with Matt, Steph and Liz, Matt’s mom. Steph was there for about 30 minutes then she disappeared (maybe she moved to LA at this point?). And Emily was hanging out with Shekeb and his mom Laila. Now you know these seasons are filmed and edited in advance of the season airing, so WTF 🤬? The logistics of it all were confusing and making my head hurt 🤕.

The only thing I got from this episode is that most of the mom/son pairs saw nothing wrong with the other moms’ behaviors and the GF’s/wives/finances sympathized with each other. I’m shocked, shocked I say by this revelation (yes sarcasm 🤪)  

I would have preferred and update on the cast members. Who’s together and who’s not? Have they learned anything from this experience? Did Carolyn actually move in with Theus and Tia? Have any of the woman become the leading ladies in their partner’s life or is it still about the moms? Who has sought counseling? Individually and/or as a couple, cause we all know many of them need it 😜. Inquiring minds would have appreciated an update episode rather than this less than stellar showing. Just saying 🤷🏼‍♀️.

And with that I sadly end this season’s final not a recap of I Love a Mama’s Boy. It has been renewed for a third season and I’m curious to see who might return (and probably answer my burning questions from above 😆). If I decide to “not recap” next season, I’ll give you all a heads up if it will happen here or if I will start a second, separate blog to not recap this and other shows as well. 

Until season three is released, think about checking out my other posts 😊.

*Not a recap, recap is my way of saying I’m going to talk about this crazy show like I do while I’m watching it – ranting about the cast members goings on (all done with tongue firmly planted in cheek). It’s very cathartic 😁😁.

Note: Check out the tags for past not a recap, recaps of I Love a Mama’s Boy if you want to read more of my ramblings on this show.

Just Once….

Me, today 😡
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Happy Monday My Lovelies 💜. Sorry for bailing at the end of last week but the Mama’s Boy part 2 recap traumatized me so much I had to decompress 😆😆😆.

Seriously though, my parents came for a weekend visit, and I had to take advantage of my dad’s assistance with some projects that require two people (hanging large pictures for example or getting him to change your air filters for your🤫). It’s really nice to have a father that doesn’t mind helping out when he can 😁.

Speaking of Mama’s Boy my final two “not a recap” recap really seemed to take off (most hits of all my posts 🤯). I may have to consider a separate blog where I “do not recap” recap of various shows that I feel like. The concept would be a recap based on who is annoying me that week – more my feelings, less play by play – like my Mama’s Boy posts 😁. I’ll keep you posted.

As for today, it’s Karen White day WOOHOO! Her final book in the Tradd Street series came out about a week ago and I’m finally getting my copy today at her speaking event. It has been killing me, not getting it on release day (I’d have probably finished it within three days if I had 😊) but the wait to see her is always worth it. But of course, my happy day could not go unchecked by Fate 🙄. I tried to accomplish what should have been a simple task that now requires a phone call and most likely more paperwork than should be necessary.

You see, almost six years ago I had applied, and qualified, for the Global Entry program, which basically lets you bypass customs on your return to the states and gives you TSA precheck. A background check, interview and fingerprinting were required. As you may have guessed, it is valid for six years and requires a renewal. I have received 2 emails, strongly encouraging me to renew before it expires at the beginning of next year (on my birthday in fact 🎂). No problem, or so I thought. First, I had to create a government login because Global Entry has been swallowed up into a bigger program, of course, ✔️. Next, I have to login (using my newly created government login 😊) to the Trusted Traveler program (formerly Global Entry) and create a profile including my Global Entry ID number ✔️. Finally, on to the main event – renewing my ID. I find the “renewal” button, click it and next thing I know it’s showing that I have to apply by completing a background check, fingerprinting and interview. What The Hell? Of course, I back out of it, convinced I had just selected the wrong button. And on the renewal page, it says that I can’t renew until my birthday a.k.a the expiration date. AAAARRRRGGGGHHH 🤬🤬🤬🤬! Now Fate and computers are conspiring against me!  All I wanted to do was pay my money and renew my global entry like any normal person, but nooooooo, that would be way to easy 🤦‍♀️. So now I have to find a number, call, and see if I can get any answers that don’t require a background check, and preferably not another interview, which requires a trip to either the Charlotte or Atlanta airport. But that is tomorrows problem 🤪.

Just once, I wish things would go as smoothly as planned (insert patented dramatic sigh here 😮‍💨).

Just once,

Can I figure out what I keep doin’ wrong?

Why the good times never last for long,

Where am I goin’ wrong?”

Paraphased stanza from James Ingram’s Just Once 😂

You can listen to the original song here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYxGmzVbvkc

Finale of I Love a Mama’s Boy Not A Recap Part 2

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As always, I save the best – that being Kim – for last. So here we go…

Matt, Kim and Kelly (mom): I gotta say, Matt had me speechless throughout most of this episode (but not anymore 😁). He is such a victim and can’t see the forest for the trees 🤦‍♀️. But I’m getting ahead of myself. So Kim and Matt finally sit down over a meal to talk about what’s going on between the two of them. Kim would rather be doing anything but having this conversation right now. She uses small talk to avoid it for as long as possible until Matt finally asks what’s going on. And when it comes right down to it, being under Kelly’s roof without any boundaries has been weighing her down and that living without her constant presence has been a blessing for Kim. At the moment Matt agrees that his mom is a lot. Kim doesn’t want to come between Matt and Kelly, but she needs to be the person Matt comes to first for support and he doesn’t. At this point Matt calls his mother over to join the conversation (because he’s losing and needs back-up 😡) and Kim is like you brought your mother (her face actually said “what the absolute F🤬🤬k?)? Matt deflects with “she asked to come”.  Hey Matt, how about telling Kelly – NO! When Kim says they were having an intense discussion, Kelly’s says go right ahead, because Matt and Kelly share everything 🤢. In Kim’s aside she says that it’s always two against one (apparently because man-child Matt can’t handle his own business) and that it will always be the two of them against her. Kim really tries to be kind while breaking Matt’s heart. She calmly tells him that he hasn’t been a good partner to her (Kelly intervenes with “and you have been a good partner?” 🙄) and she doesn’t see herself married to him. To which Matt responds with the second temper tantrum of the show, telling Kim to “Go f🤬🤬k yourself Kim” and “F🤬🤬k you” repeatedly while trying to usher his mom out of the restaurant (weird side note – Kelly walks out of the restaurant with her wine glass for some reason 🤷🏼‍♀️). Matt spends the remainder of the episode playing the victim, as if he has no responsibility for the end of his relationship. It was funny, at one point when Matt was railing against Kim he turned to his mom and says, “I told you she’d do this” and in the next minute he’s telling production that he didn’t see it coming. So, which is it – you knew it was coming or you didn’t? He can’t even keep his own narrative straight. Then he tries to say that not only did Kim break his heart, she broke his mom’s heart – you know the woman who couldn’t hide her glee when Kim left? The same woman who frequently took pleasure in hurling nasty comments at Kim (disguised as “jokes”), that woman? Yeah, she’s broken hearted that the woman who took your attention away from her is gone, please 🙄… Then he starts ranting about the car he bought her and all the money his parents spent paying for her food, her phone bill and so on, like she was some kind of golddigger. Now I was already worked up about how he treated Kim, but this just pushed me over the edge. You see, I remember when Kim was considering taking the Houston job, she wanted to use the extra money to “pay back his parents for all they had done for them” 🤯. Did you forget about that Matt? As for the car – did she ask you to buy it, or did you decide you wanted to gift her the car. If it’s the latter, he can f🤬🤬k all the way off for even mentioning it. Oh, and at some point, he insinuates Kim is cheating on him with absolutely no proof other than she broke things off with him. Ugh, this guy 🤮. All of this ends with Matt sobbing in a bar and Kelly acting like a mafia boss out for blood. “She will never be forgiven for this” – Kelly. I’m beginning to think Kim needs to run farther than Houston to get away from her 😳.

It was a spectacular end to this odd little show. I’m only sorry for the Matt/Kim breakup for two reasons – how horrible Matt was to Kim in the end and that Kim won’t be back next season 😢. She has consistently been my favorite personality on this show and didn’t deserve the treatment she got.

Final thoughts: One the most annoying things that consistently occurred throughout the season is this narrative that they girlfriends new that the mama’s boys were close to their mothers, a package deal. And I don’t think most of the girlfriends had issues with them being close as much as it was about setting healthy boundaries and taking care of yourself like adults should. Oh, and treating your significant other with the same level of respect you treat your mother. It’s not that complicated.

Next week is some sort of a situation where they watch each other’s storyline (I think) and comment. I’m not sure how that’s going to look and I might do a “not a recap” if it’s worth it. We shall see. 

For those who joined me on this ridiculous journey, I thank you for indulging my guilty pleasure.

Finale of I Love a Mama’s Boy Not a Recap Part 1

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Since I’ve got A LOT to say about Kim and Matt, I will save them for tomorrow. Otherwise, this would get really long….

NOOOOOOOOOOOO! I thought I would have at least two more episodes 😫😫😫. But alas it is not meant to be 😢. Oh well, let’s not recap this thing…

The only family missing from tonight were Tia, Theous and Carolyn. I guess that sit down last week settled things and there wasn’t much more to say 🤷🏼‍♀️.

First up Bryan, Tracy, and Jayne (mom): We return to the scene of what I thought might be a crime – Jayne’s first date in decades (seriously – decades 😳). The guy seems genuinely nice but Bryan isn’t going to even give an inch on this. He is ridiculously overprotective of his mom and sees no reason why she should date, even if it’s selfish (hint, it is selfish). He actually says his mom deserves love but that there is no one out there good enough for her. So what you really mean is you she doesn’t deserve love? Logic is not the strong suit with any of these guys. Their story ends when Jayne comes over a few days later and decides that she would rather hang out with her son and his family than have a life of her own (my words, not hers 😁). Tracy is pissed because even though she likes Jayne, she just doesn’t want her around all of the time! And I can’t blame her. It’s just sad that Jayne has built her life around Bryan and he’s good with that.

Next in the line-up is Mike, Stephanie, and Liz (mom): Well about a week after Steph lands in L.A. Mike calls to tell her about his new job opportunity in L.A. and he’s taking it! In Steph’s aside she bemoans the fact that for years he said he wouldn’t leave CT because of his mom. Then along comes this job and he’ll leave mom for that but not her. Valid complaint if you ask me. But then we flash to Mike who is regretting how things went down between him and Steph and that he really wants to fix things between them. Next thing we see is him in his new apartment – does Steph know he’s there? It’s not really made clear. Liz has just flown in to make sure her delicate son is doing ok without her (and probably hoping he’s ready to come home 😜). They head out to run errands and Mike decides to surprise Steph by stopping by her place, with his mom of course 🙄. Steph is certainly surprised, at least by Liz. The whole point of the visit was production wrapping this story line in the most contrived way. You’re showing your panty lines production ☹️. Anyway, they’ve decided that they will live separately for now and work on their relationship, without Liz hovering nearby (although Mike would be thrilled if she moved to L.A. – probably season 3’s storyline 😆). Liz says she is supportive of them because Mike loves Steph but you know she is just waiting to swoop in at a moment’s notice to bring Mike home to CT.

Now we move on to Shekeb, Emily and Laila (mom): OOOF this one is painful to watch. Emily has been harassing Shekeb via text because she is ready to apologize. New flash Emily, he’s not ready to hear it! So Emily decides to drive over to his house to confront him with an apology (yep, I mean confront 😁). He’s still outraged by her actions and she is trying to angrily apologize to him, so you can imagine how well that is going over 😬. Laila comes out and is pissed to find Emily on her property. Emily gives a half-assed apology (although she probably thinks it was perfect) and Laila taunts her by showing her that she is wearing the ring from the not a proposal moment. Even Shekeb realizes that was unnecessary and tries to diffuse the situation. Unfortunately, Emily has gone full boiling bunnies crazy and starts throwing a full on melt down temper tantrum, you know – like toddlers throw (although at his worst my nephew never threw a fit anywhere near as insane as hers 😳). In her aside, Laila calls her evil (a little extreme in my opinion) and says she never loved Shekeb, which I don’t buy at all. I think the reality is that Emily was spoiled as a child, thus her ridiculous ring request, and that she is too immature to be in a serious relationship. She could use a good dose of counseling. In the end we see her stalking away from his house, after destroying a few more plants, with Shekeb and his mom safely ensconced in their house. I don’t think there is much hope of salvaging this relationship and that’s probably for the best.

Tune in tomorrow for the conclusion…

Who Bet on Fate?

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So, who was betting against me this past weekend in regard to my car maintenance appointment? Did you think Fate would poke her head in to spread evil fairy dust over my car? Well, nuts to you because she decided to cut me a break 😜. Make sure to pay the lady on your way out 😆. Yes, everything went smoothly – the only thing I added was new windshield wipers all around, even though I’ve used the back one about 5 time since I’ve had the car (it covers this tiny space on the lower half of the back window – so pointless!). However, my maintenance friends decided to mock me because in the six years I’ve owned my SUV I’ve never changed the back one – OOPS 🤷🏼‍♀️. You know how it is, you just forget it’s back there. At least I gave the crew a good laugh 😁.

Oh, and the slightly pornographic name for the service? My throttle body needed cleaning 😬😆. When I asked what the service was for – he said the cleaning helps makes it (my car, that is) go. If telling someone their throttle body needs cleaning doesn’t sound like a line from porn flick, I don’t know what does 😀😀.

As for my back and forth with 23andMe, I did get one final email in response to my suggestion that they reevaluate their protocols for someone gaining access to their own data in a situation like mine. It reads: 

“Hello Charleen, 
 
Thank you for your reply. I appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback in regards to recovering access to your results. I have forwarded your comments to the appropriate team to be considered for incorporation into future updates.
 
Please feel free to let me know if you have any additional questions or suggestions.
 
Best regards,
Henry
The 23andMe Team”

Who knows if they’ll take it seriously? Most likely not 🙄. But if they do and it makes life easier for others in similar situations, than griping was well worth it 😊.

Also, I watched another Spanish movie in my quest to immerse myself in the language. Of course, if I was more consistent, maybe I’d actually learn Spanish 🤪. Though with my broken brain, probably not (add the usual dramatic sigh 😆). This weekend fare – The Warning. IMDb’s synopsis – “Ten-year-old Nico receives a threatening letter and now his life is in danger. No one seems to believe him except one person that he doesn’t know who has come to believe fate itself wants the boy dead and tries to prevent it.” Then there’s Netflix’s description “A man discovers a mathematical pattern behind deaths that occurred at the same location and sets out to warn the next victim.” Both accurate, if wildly different descriptors. It wasn’t half bad, but I’ve seen better. However, if either of these synopsis tickles your fancy, head over to Netflix and check it out.

So that’s the weekend update. Before I go, I would like to ask for healing thoughts for my littlest nephew who had a simple surgical procedure today.  All went well, but he’s four and a half and could use some good energy sent his way 😊.

As Tigger would say “TTFN” and for my Mama’s Boy fans, the not a recap will be up tomorrow.

What Does Fate Have in Store for Me Next?

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So what I am learning from you My Lovelies is that you really enjoy the posts where I talk about a declarative statement I made and Fate comes along to smack me upside the head for making said statement. WOW – really feeling the love peeps 😆😆😆😆! You know I can be insightful on occasion… just saying 😁.

It has inspired me to consider creating a contest where you submit a brief story about a time Fate gave you a reality check. I’ll find some judges and see who has the funniest “this could only happen to me story”. I’m going to think on it so I can plan accordingly and yes, a prize will be awarded if I figure out the structure. Don’t worry names of the innocent will be protected 😁.

Now that the 23andMe issue has finally been put to bed, I have one last story specific to my contact with them. I wrote a blistering response when asked about my experience with Henry (my email contact). Don’t worry, I gave him good marks, I’m not a complete a🤬🤬hole. Besides my issue was with the way their system is set up and how insulting it was that I had to rely on my ex to get my data back and maybe they should look at requiring everyone who submits a kit to have their own account, thus avoiding telling someone in the future that their own data is private and cannot be revealed to them. Pretty good suggestion I thought. The response “Your request has been updated below. Feel free to reply to this email with any questions or additional comments…” Sound at all familiar? Of course, I realize it’s their initial standard response, but I’d rather wait for an actual response and skip this pointless (and annoying 🙄) step. I’m telling you on my best day of writing, I really couldn’t make this s🤬🤬t up (feel free to prove me wrong Fate 😆). If I get a real response this weekend, I will share it on Monday.

Well at least most of the issues have been resolved, for now. Just waiting for the next “What the hell Fate?” moment that I will laugh about after the fact. I know it’s coming; you know it’s coming so let’s see how long it takes before Fate takes another swipe at me. I will meet Her with absolutely no grace whatsoever 🤪? Then post an amusing anecdote for you all to enjoy after the fact. Anyone who understands bookmaking want to weigh in on the odds? Or should we have a pool to see who can guess the next date of my “What the Hell Fate?” moment without going over? Although I am having scheduled routine maintenance done on my car Saturday – let’s see what else they find 😀! Actually, those who run the maintenance dept at Toyota know me really well, so they don’t recommend any unnecessary work, thankfully. That doesn’t mean they won’t find something though because Fate and I are like this 🤞 in all the worst ways. 

Oh, and the service that has to be done does sound vaguely pornographic 😬 – I’d tell you what it’s called if I could remember 🤦‍♀️ (depression brain at work 😜). I’ll find out this weekend and add it to Monday’s update.

And on that note, I will leave you with this beautiful thought for the weekend:

“As confusing, unpredictable, and stressful as life may be, always remember, it is never incorrect to be kind. When lost, just do nice things.”

Sean Plott

XOXO – Me

Let’s Talk About This Idea of Forgiveness

Every once in a while, I’ve got to be a little serious and touch upon topics that I can’t be the only one struggling with. Today is one of those posts, but I will try to find some levity in it 😊.

About a month ago, I went to an author reading. While most of it wasn’t my cup of tea, one thing the author brought up that has caused a lot of self-reflection is the concept of forgiveness being for you not for the person you forgive. After circling back around to this topic with my friend Robb (and after a healthy debate) I don’t know if I can fully accept this premise, now or ever.

You see for me forgiveness has always been linked to someone making amends/apologizing for the way they treated you and (hopefully) never doing it again. And I have never been asked for forgiveness by my ex. Now I’m being told that not forgiving my ex-husband and holding on to the anger doesn’t affect him – it’s just detrimental to me (not entirely untrue). But my argument is that my forgiveness doesn’t affect him either and it doesn’t magically make the anger. I can say I forgive him, but it just rings hollow. Partially because to give this blanket forgiveness for a multitude of bad behaviors over the last few years of our marriage doesn’t work for me.

Am I forgiving him for the cheating? The gaslighting? The constant choices/decisions that ignored my feelings/needs and factored into my depression? How about the fact that when I was depressed (or in his words – off 🙄), he didn’t see the need to find/get me help or even talk to my family about his supposed concerns? Or how about using his OCD as a reason to treat me poorly at times? Then there are the parting insults he hurled at me on his way out the door to his mistress. And that’s just off the top of my head.

That is a lot for one word to cover in my opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️.

You see for me it’s not about saying “I forgive him” as it is about working through the different levels of anger. Making that pronouncement does nothing for me (trust me, I’ve tried it 😆). Instead, I choose to focus on letting go of the anger for each behavior to find my peace. That is what moves me to a more harmonious state.

And I know it may not sound like it, but I am (mostly 😁) in a better place with a lot on the list. The anger flares up from time to time (like the 23andMe bs that gave him control over my profile) but this is a grieving process and when you’re with someone for over 25 years the grieving may take longer for some – like me 😊.

Maybe it’s just semantics 🤷🏼‍♀️, but it makes sense to my way of thinking.

So if someone says the can’t forgive the offending person, give them a little grace because that specific term may not work for them. Let them find their own words on their path toward peace. 🕊

Note: Just writing this piece allowed some of the leftover anger to flow out of me. Interesting 🤫…